What to Tell Your Kids During Your Divorce with John Yacos (video podcast)

In this episode Keep the Kids in Mind, Rachel interviews John Yacos, a litigation attorney in matrimonial and family law. 

Connect with John Yacos:

Website: https://yacoslaw.com/

Phone: 212-587-9560

In every episode of Keep the Kids in Mind, Rachel Green, a family and divorce mediator with over 25 years of experience, interviews Marriage Therapists, Attorneys, Divorce Coaches, Child Development Specialists, Financial Planners, and Teachers to help people who are going through a divorce or separation with children involved. How can divorcing couples keep the kids in mind? What are the common pitfalls for divorcing couples with children and how can people protect children from the conflict, so that they come through whole and healthy? What are the (surprising) benefits to children of divorce? How can the parents move into a restructured family with 2 homes? This podcast explores these questions and more.

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Setting Financial Boundaries Before, During, After a Marriage with Ivy Menchel (Video Podcast)

In this episode Keep the Kids in Mind, Rachel interviews Ivy Menchel, from Family Wealth Planning Partners.

Connect with Ivy Menchel:

Website

Phone: 212-244-4702

In every episode of Keep the Kids in Mind, Rachel Green, a family and divorce mediator with over 25 years of experience, interviews Marriage Therapists, Attorneys, Divorce Coaches, Child Development Specialists, Financial Planners, and Teachers to help people who are going through a divorce or separation with children involved. How can divorcing couples keep the kids in mind? What are the common pitfalls for divorcing couples with children and how can people protect children from the conflict, so that they come through whole and healthy? What are the (surprising) benefits to children of divorce? How can the parents move into a restructured family with 2 homes? This podcast explores these questions and more.

Connect with Rachel Green: LinkedIn

Separation or Divorce?

The answer to this is personal, and it depends where you are both at. Are you 100% sure that you are headed for divorce? Or is there a chance of separating for a few months, a year, even 3 – and then reconciling? Do you feel that you would not be able to date if you are still married? Is one of you on the other’s health insurance?

There are three differences between signing a full separation agreement and living apart, according to its terms, and filing for a divorce.

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Mediation or Collaborative?

Is mediation or collaborative divorce the right fit for you?

After you decide that you are going to separate, the first questions you want to answer are: What process will work best for you both? Who are the professionals who can help you to find the steps through to this next phase of your lives? Do you both want to try mediation with a neutral third person to help facilitate your conversation? Or would you prefer to have your attorney sitting next to you during your negotiations?

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Is Mediation Right for Me?

8 Reasons To Try Mediation:

1. Faster Path to Closure:

You may have been wronged – but getting stuck in conflict, and seeking revenge, will only keep you thinking about and tallying up – reliving – those hurts.  The goal of mediation is to wrap up this part of your life, resolve and settle, so that you can move forward to your new and (hopefully) happier future, without the conflicts of the past.  Let them go!

2. Neutral:

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Six Things Your Litigator Doesn’t Want You To Know

Six Things Your Lawyer Doesn’t Want You To Know

 OR – Why You Should Mediate Your Divorce

  1. Children
  • Your children will never thank you for destroying their other parent
  • Children always know the truth of their parents’ divorce.  They will focus on it, and listen carefully to everything they hear, and piece together the story.
  • The longer you are embroiled in conflict, the longer before your children can settle back into being normal kids – focusing on school, friends, music, soccer – and not on the conflict between the two people they love most in this world.

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Why Mediate?

I usually begin mediation sessions by asking a couple why they are coming to mediation. This helps people to remember what kind of process and outcome they are hoping for – as well as lets me know how much they know about the process.

I met with a new couple last week, and when I asked them this question – I was blown away by their answers! In 5 minutes, they described the most idealistic mediation process, and highlighted (what I see as) the benefits of mediation. They said: Continue reading “Why Mediate?”