ReSolutions Mediation & Collaborative Services | Brooklyn, NY
family, parenting, divorce mediation
Navigating change is difficult. Rachel Green & the re•solutions team can help increase clarity & improve communication for couples in conflict.
Keep the Kids in Mind with Rachel Green and Michael Henry
Rachel chats with Michael Henry, Mediator, Facilitator & Attorney who works with Rachel at ReSolutions Mediation & Collaborative Divorce Services, in Brooklyn NY.
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Email: michael@mediate2resolution.com
The courts have some test programs running where they refer cases to mediation. Parties are screened for some known red flags – but pretty much – if your case is sent to mediation, you have to attend – at least that first session.*
Some of these cases are rough! We have to undo 2-3 years of damage to their relationship and ability to trust each other, eroded from the litigation process, before we can even begin to have productive discussions about moving forward. And that damage crops up and again and again at every turn and has to be scraped away each time.
These couples are not necessarily “high conflict” couples by personality or psychology or history. It’s the damage that has been done by being in litigation and all of that time operating out of defensiveness and fear, with their normal communication blocked – sometimes at their lawyers’ instruction.
*The mediators donate 90 minutes of time, free, and then, if the parties so choose, they can continue at the mediator’s hourly rate.
The pandemic hit me hard – as it did so many of us – and I found that I could not write. That is why I have not posted about mediation in a very long time. I still care, I still mediate and find it engrossing. I love working with families to help them find the stepping stones through their separation and restructuring caused by breakups. I am sympathetic and want to help; honored that they let me into their lives, and share with me their concerns and priorities.
I just have not been able to write about it. But I have broken through, and will be blogging again.
I also am starting a new podcast – “Keep the Kids In Mind.” So many of my clients were children of divorce, trying to structure their divorce in a better way than their parents did, without destroying their exes or wincing when they think about what they did during this transition. Others have children themselves who they want to protect from their divorces. We will focus on how to do it better
Love And Money: Experts Weigh In On How Women Can Protect Their Assets In The Event Of Divorce –
https://madamenoire.com/1212291/how-to-protect-assets-from-divorce
The divorce process can be long and tiring. Many clients who have reached the end wonder, “What’s next?” Living alone (part of the week) can be a challenge, post-divorce, and as you adjust.
It’s normal to have mixed feelings. It can be a relief to no longer live with your ex, but it can also be a difficult transition. It’s normal to have mixed feelings – even if (especially if) you initiated the end of the marriage. The divorce process sweeps you up, and you are keeping your eye on the goal, as you negotiate, and push through. When it is over, it can leave a void.
Continue reading “How to Live Alone After Divorce”In mediation, we work to make space to have conversations that you have not been able to have on your own, which can help you to have closure, and to move forward without needing to keep rehashing the past.
Continue reading “Will Mediation Benefit Us If We Have No Kids?”The answer to this is personal, and it depends where you are both at. Are you 100% sure that you are headed for divorce? Or is there a chance of separating for a few months, a year, even 3 – and then reconciling? Do you feel that you would not be able to date if you are still married? Is one of you on the other’s health insurance?
There are three differences between signing a full separation agreement and living apart, according to its terms, and filing for a divorce.
Continue reading “Separation or Divorce?”Leaders from the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers (AAML) and AFCC have released guidelines for coparenting during the COVID-19 pandemic.
Comply with all CDC and local and state guidelines and model good behavior for your children with intensive hand washing, wiping down surfaces and other objects that are frequently touched, and maintaining social distancing. This also means BE INFORMED. Stay in touch with the most reliable media sources and avoid the rumor mill on social media.
WARNING- the following contains spoilers. Don’t read it if you have not yet seen the film.
Continue reading “Review of The Marriage Story from a Divorce Mediator”A neutral mediator is key to the mediation process. This neutrality in the mediator can help heal the pain of divorce and increase understanding. It is never simple to determine why a marriage ends. The end of the marriage takes two, as does the beginning .
My challenge as a mediator is how to understand/empathize with both people.
Continue reading “Mediation and Neutrality”