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Collaborative Parenting and Blended Families with Catharine Canadé (video podcast)

In this episode of Keep the Kids in Mind, Rachel interviews Catherine Canadé, mediator and collaborative attorney. Catherine helps families transition through separation and divorce outside of a traditional court process.

Through divorce and family mediation or the collaborative process, where the clients shape and determine the results, Catherine assists her clients in achieving resolutions that are workable, affordable and durable, through processes that are far more efficient and cost effective in resolving conflict than working through the court system.

About Catharine Canadé

Website:  https://www.canadelaw.com/ 
Connect with Catharine on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/catherine-canad%C3%A9-esq-5538b74/ 
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/CanadeLawMediation

In every episode of Keep the Kids in Mind, Rachel Green, a family, and divorce mediator with over 25 years of experience, interviews Marriage Therapists, Attorneys, Divorce Coaches, Child Development Specialists, Financial Planners, and Teachers to help people who are going through a divorce or separation with children involved. How can divorcing couples keep the kids in mind? What are the common pitfalls for divorcing couples with children and how can people protect children from the conflict, so that they come through whole and healthy? What are the (surprising) benefits to children of divorce? How can the parents move into a restructured family with 2 homes? This podcast explores these questions and more.  

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Collaborative Divorce with Joy Rosenthal (video podcast)

In this episode of Keep the Kids in Mind, Rachel interviews Joy Rosenthal.  Joy has been a compassionate lawyer and divorce mediator for over 15 years, and is based in Brooklyn, New York.  Her online course called “Landing On Your Feet – A Compassionate Lawyer’s Guide to Divorce,” provides legal information for people going through divorce.

About Joy Rosenthal 

Website: http://www.joyrosenthal.com 
Learn more about Joy’s course: Landing On Your Feet: A Compassionate Lawyer’s Guide to Divorce https://courses.joyrosenthal.com/landing-on-your-feet 
Connect with Joy on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/joyrosenthal/ 
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/nycdivorcemediator 
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/joymediator/   

In every episode of Keep the Kids in Mind, Rachel Green, a family, and divorce mediator with over 25 years of experience, interviews Marriage Therapists, Attorneys, Divorce Coaches, Child Development Specialists, Financial Planners, and Teachers to help people who are going through a divorce or separation with children involved. How can divorcing couples keep the kids in mind? What are the common pitfalls for divorcing couples with children and how can people protect children from the conflict, so that they come through whole and healthy? What are the (surprising) benefits to children of divorce? How can the parents move into a restructured family with 2 homes? This podcast explores these questions and more.  

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debt & divorce


The starting point for divorce negotiations is to divide debt 50/50. This would not include debt racked up because of an addiction, gambling disorder, fancy dinners with a paramour. So the presumption that debt is joint can be questioned, depending on what the debt arose from. Lost a week’s pay gambling? That debt is yours. Dental bills and groceries? You’re sharing that.

Generally, mortgages stay with the house. A spouse gets the house, they would also get the mortgage. If the couple is selling the house, they pay off the mortgage and then split the remaining proceeds of the sale – equally, most often.

Responsibility for debt: Technically, credit cards are held by one person. Even if you are a cardholder on the account, the bills are only in your name, and you are the one that the credit card company will go after. However, if you are getting divorced, then the courts would have the authority to distribute the responsibility as they see fit.

To protect yourself, you and your partner can enter into a prenuptial or postnuptial agreement to clarify that debt in your name is yours, and theirs is theirs. Or you could say (in a prenup) that you will divide debt accrued during the marriage proportionally based on your incomes. (So if one partner earned $100k and the other earned $50k, the debt would be divided 2/3 – 1/3.)

The #1 thing I recommend is – know what’s going on in your household! Look at the monthly statement – forward it to your ex, after circling all the things you expect them to chip in for.

If credit card debt starts accruing, it’s hard to get out from under it, because the interest they charge is so high. You might have a chance to change it, restructure it – move it to 0% interest offers to keep interest charges from piling up – find a debt restructuring company, which will negotiate with your creditors, lower the balance owed and put you on a payment plan.

If you have retirement assets, maybe you can take a loan against them to pay off credit card debt. Those loans are great – you pay interest to yourself.

You can nip it in the bud – but only if you know about it. Some of the worst debt-divorce stories I have seen were where one partner accumulated debt that the other did not know about. Nothing like thinking, “great we’re selling our house for $1,300,000,” only to discover that your share will be $200,000 because there is debt that you only learned about at the closing.

You can also protect yourself with a postnuptial agreement. I worked with a couple whose only area of conflict was money, and they were debating whether to stay married. We negotiated the terms of a postnuptial agreement in which they agreed that any debt would belong to the person whose name is on the debt – and would belong solely to that spouse. Even if you’re already married, you can negotiate who will own what. Just be sure to put it in writing.

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Parent Coordination After Divorce with Dr. Barbara Rothberg, DSW, LCSW (video podcast)

In this episode of Keep the Kids in Mind, Rachel interviews Dr. Barbara Rothberg, DSW, LCSW, a Parent Coordinator, Mediator, and Couples Therapist in private practice.

About Dr. Barbara Rothberg: 

Connect with Dr. Rothberg on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-barbara-rothberg-a5393014 

Visit her website: https://barbararothberg.com/ 

In every episode of Keep the Kids in Mind, Rachel Green, a family, and divorce mediator with over 25 years of experience, interviews Marriage Therapists, Attorneys, Divorce Coaches, Child Development Specialists, Financial Planners, and Teachers to help people who are going through a divorce or separation with children involved. How can divorcing couples keep the kids in mind? What are the common pitfalls for divorcing couples with children and how can people protect children from the conflict, so that they come through whole and healthy? What are the (surprising) benefits to children of divorce? How can the parents move into a restructured family with 2 homes? This podcast explores these questions and more.  

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Helping Families Transition Through Separation and Divorce with Lesley Friedland (video podcast)

In this episode of Keep the Kids in Mind, Rachel interviews Lesley Ann Friedland, Esq., Founder and Executive Director of FamilyKind.

About Lesley Ann Friedland: 

Connect with Lesley on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lesley-ann-friedland/ 

Follow FamilyKind on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/familykind/ 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/familykindltd/ 

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@familykind-originalchannel3568

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/FamilyKind/ 

Twitter: https://twitter.com/familykind 

In every episode of Keep the Kids in Mind, Rachel Green, a family, and divorce mediator with over 25 years of experience, interviews Marriage Therapists, Attorneys, Divorce Coaches, Child Development Specialists, Financial Planners, and Teachers to help people who are going through a divorce or separation with children involved. How can divorcing couples keep the kids in mind? What are the common pitfalls for divorcing couples with children and how can people protect children from the conflict, so that they come through whole and healthy? What are the (surprising) benefits to children of divorce? How can the parents move into a restructured family with 2 homes? This podcast explores these questions and more.  

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Making A Blended Family Work with Abigail Palanca (video podcast)

In this episode of Keep the Kids in Mind, Rachel interviews Abigail Palanca.

About Abigail Palanca:

Connect with Abigail on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/abigail-palanca-886b7462/ 
Abigail’s team: https://theabbypalancateam.com/ 
Abigails’ profile on Serhant: https://www.serhant.com/people/240/abigail-palanca
Instagram: https://instagram.com/abbypalanca

In every episode of Keep the Kids in Mind, Rachel Green, a family, and divorce mediator with over 25 years of experience, interviews Marriage Therapists, Attorneys, Divorce Coaches, Child Development Specialists, Financial Planners, and Teachers to help people who are going through a divorce or separation with children involved. How can divorcing couples keep the kids in mind? What are the common pitfalls for divorcing couples with children and how can people protect children from the conflict, so that they come through whole and healthy? What are the (surprising) benefits to children of divorce? How can the parents move into a restructured family with 2 homes? This podcast explores these questions and more.  

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Putting the Children First in Divorce with Jennifer Safian (video podcast)

In this episode of Keep the Kids in Mind, Rachel interviews Jennifer Safian.

About Jennifer Safian:
Connect with Jennifer on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/Jennifersafian/
Jennifer’s website: https://safianmediation.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Safian.Mediation/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/safianmediation
Phone: 917- 881-5206

In every episode of Keep the Kids in Mind, Rachel Green, a family, and divorce mediator with over 25 years of experience, interviews Marriage Therapists, Attorneys, Divorce Coaches, Child Development Specialists, Financial Planners, and Teachers to help people who are going through a divorce or separation with children involved. How can divorcing couples keep the kids in mind? What are the common pitfalls for divorcing couples with children and how can people protect children from the conflict, so that they come through whole and healthy? What are the (surprising) benefits to children of divorce? How can the parents move into a restructured family with 2 homes? This podcast explores these questions and more.

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Brooklyn Divorce Professionals Panel – Part 2 (video podcast)

In this episode of Keep the Kids in Mind, Rachel interviews a group of Brooklyn Divorce Professionals.

Connect with the Panelists:
Catherine Canade: https://www.canadelaw.com/
Trish Goodwin: https://www.compass.com/agents/trish-goodwin/
Andrea Hirshman: http://www.andreahirshman.com/
Stephen Linker: https://www.stephenlinker.com/
Barbara Rothberg: https://barbararothberg.com/
Sallie Mullins Thompson: http://www.smtcpapllc.com/

In every episode of Keep the Kids in Mind, Rachel Green, a family, and divorce mediator with over 25 years of experience, interviews Marriage Therapists, Attorneys, Divorce Coaches, Child Development Specialists, Financial Planners, and Teachers to help people who are going through a divorce or separation with children involved. How can divorcing couples keep the kids in mind? What are the common pitfalls for divorcing couples with children and how can people protect children from the conflict, so that they come through whole and healthy? What are the (surprising) benefits to children of divorce? How can the parents move into a restructured family with 2 homes? This podcast explores these questions and more.

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Brooklyn Divorce Professionals Panel – Part 1 (video podcast)

In this episode of Keep the Kids in Mind, Rachel interviews a group of Brooklyn Divorce Professionals.

Connect with the Panelists:
Catherine Canade: https://www.canadelaw.com/
Andrea Hirshman: http://www.andreahirshman.com/
Stephen Linker: https://www.stephenlinker.com/
Barbara Rothberg: https://barbararothberg.com/
Sallie Mullins Thompson: http://www.smtcpapllc.com/

In every episode of Keep the Kids in Mind, Rachel Green, a family, and divorce mediator with over 25 years of experience, interviews Marriage Therapists, Attorneys, Divorce Coaches, Child Development Specialists, Financial Planners, and Teachers to help people who are going through a divorce or separation with children involved. How can divorcing couples keep the kids in mind? What are the common pitfalls for divorcing couples with children and how can people protect children from the conflict, so that they come through whole and healthy? What are the (surprising) benefits to children of divorce? How can the parents move into a restructured family with 2 homes? This podcast explores these questions and more.

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Family Mediation in Divorce with Ada Hasloecher (video podcast)

In this episode Keep the Kids in Mind, Rachel Green interviews Ada L. Hasloecher, a Divorce & Family Mediator.

About Ada Hasloecher:
Connect with Ada on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adalhasloecher/
Ada’s Website: http://www.dfmcli.com/
Read Ada’s Blog: http://divorceandfamilymediationcenter.com/blog/
Watch Ada’s Video Blogs and Subscribe to her YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@divorceandfamilymediationc1753
Phone: 516-330-3555

In every episode of Keep the Kids in Mind, Rachel Green, a family, and divorce mediator with over 25 years of experience, interviews Marriage Therapists, Attorneys, Divorce Coaches, Child Development Specialists, Financial Planners, and Teachers to help people who are going through a divorce or separation with children involved. How can divorcing couples keep the kids in mind? What are the common pitfalls for divorcing couples with children and how can people protect children from the conflict, so that they come through whole and healthy? What are the (surprising) benefits to children of divorce? How can the parents move into a restructured family with 2 homes? This podcast explores these questions and more.

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