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The New York Times had a wonderful article on July 16, 2026, by Jancee Dunn, about how to fight with your partner. It seems to me that as a society, we have to face the fact that conflict is normal and inevitable in any intimate relationship. No two people are going to agree on every aspect of their lives and when you're sharing your life with someone, you're going to come face to face with aspects about which you are not in agreement. We don't see healthy exploration of conflict in movies and TV shows, unless it's a show specifically about family conflict. But it's never portrayed as a normal, everyday part of long term relationships, which it is. " Clashes are normal in relationships. How you handle those fights is key." The tools outlined are: Take a break when either of you get overwhelmed, including having a "code word," to signal that one of you is overwhelmed to a point where you can no longer speak/think rationally, and you need to stop and return to the conversation in - an hour? - a day? when you are calmer. No matter what, with this person who's your life partner, you don't let the conversation fall to the lowest level. No saying 'f-- you' - no cursing, no name calling and no yelling. You want to resolve this, not communicate to your partner that you no longer care about them. If you're going to share your life, you care about them even when they do what you know is totally the wrong thing. Body Language: It helps to fight during a walk outside or while you're lying down next to each other and not looking at each other. Changing your physicality can change your attitude, and can help your partner not to feel put on the spot or confronted. The final tip was not to expect your partner to be a mind feeder. If you're angry it's a sign that your needs have not been met so it's up to you to figure out what need you have that was not met. It's not your partner's job.

I want my clients to feel informed, even when the information might not support them in getting the results they think that they want. Research has shown that children who have strong relationships with both parents, do best in life. These studies show that as long as children spend at least 1/3 of their time with each parent, they feel they have 2 parents, even though separated. However, if their basic schedule gives them less than 1/3 of the time (approx 10 nights a month) they feel like they have 1 parent who takes care of them - feeds them nutritious food, makes sure they do their homework and get to bed on time etc, and 1 parent who is uncle daddy or aunty mama. Some call them, the fun parent. The common argument between the work parent and the fun parent is... "You never have to rush around making lunches, check they did their homework, get them out the door in time for school / the bus. You waltz in here, pick them up, take them to softball on Saturday and go out to lunch. What a nice life. You get them rested and happy on the weekend. I get them for all of the hectic, pressured time." But the work parent, will also get all of the kudos for their kids' accomplishments. The work parent will have the closeness of knowing the children really well as they grow up - witnessing their struggles and dreams. Divorce gives parents the opportunity to step up. To have the kids without the other parent around, so then can really be a parent who really helps raise their children.

I’m watching AppleTV's new show, Margo's Got Money Troubles. I was excited when a custody dispute arose and the couple were referred to mediation. Immediately I thought, fantastic, an opportunity to show the world how mediation can work. The mediator started by asking, tell me what are your goals for the process? Mark, why don't you start? I often open mediations with the same question and people respond with their long-term hopes… - We want our child to feel loved, safe, secure, even though her parents are in 2 homes. - I hope we can have a cordial relationship. My parents divorced and fought constantly. It was awful. I don't want our baby to have to live with that level of conflict. - I was hurt and angry, I felt blind-sided when we broke up. Now, 2 years have passed, I want to figure out how to forgive my ex and develop a business like, co-parenting relationship. - We get along. I don't want the divorce process to pit us against each other, as litigation would. Instead, Mark stated, (probably quoting legal papers), I want sole custody of the child. Then began yelling legal arguments. Margo yelled her legal arguments back and the whole thing fell apart. The mediator lost control of the process, and they got nothing from it. Worse - the mediator didn’t give Margo a chance to share her thoughts. In my office, I would have immediately interrupted Mark and said, yes, we will get to that further down the road, but the immediate question is what do you want out of mediation? I don't want to hear your legal arguments. I'm not a judge. I want to have a conversation on a human level. To be more specific, do you have a vision for the relationship you want with your child as he grows up? How you, as co-parents, want to interact with each other in front of him? (And - assuming he answered the question,) Margo, thanks for sitting quietly and listening while Mark had his turn. Now it's your turn. What would be your ideal result of mediation?

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You and your spouse come to mediation together, whether it be in person or on Zoom. We go through a detailed checklist, to make sure we address everything, with the focus of you having a complete legal Settlement Agreement at the end. If you both want, we can also draft your Settlement Agreement. This puts everything discussed into a binding legal contract, that will be filed with the Court along with your divorce papers. Some people choose to work with an advisory attorney and prefer that their attorneys draft the agreement. If so, then your mediator will write a summary of your agreement, called a Memorandum of Understanding or MOU. In New York, the courts have a set of Uncontested Divorce Papers that have to be filled out and filed with the courts. We can create and file these papers for your both.