In mediation, we start from an underlying premise that we can find a place which will meet the needs of all members of the family. This is not always the case in litigation and often times the needs of the family get lost in a power struggle full of fear & defense.
Fuel for Conflict
People get into the worst fights when what they are fighting about is not what they are really fighting about…
I am working with a couple who have an extremely (and unusually) hostile and embittered post-divorce relationship. I am working with them as a parenting coordinator, not a mediator. This means that I was appointed by the court and have the power to make decisions if there is a time-sensitive matter pending. Usually, during mediation, I don’t have the power to make decisions (and why should I? Those are not my kids).
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Six Things Your Lawyer Doesn’t Want You To Know
OR – Why You Should Mediate Your Divorce
- Children
- Your children will never thank you for destroying their other parent
- Children always know the truth of their parents’ divorce. They will focus on it, and listen carefully to everything they hear, and piece together the story.
- The longer you are embroiled in conflict, the longer before your children can settle back into being normal kids – focusing on school, friends, music, soccer – and not on the conflict between the two people they love most in this world.
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