Quotes from Divorcing People
“You probably don’t remember me, but I worked with you before about 10 years ago. I want you to know that when you wrote up our separation agreement, my ex and I didn’t think so deeply about many of the things in it, but we have, over the years, consulted the agreement constantly. It has really provided us with the structure for an amicable parenting relationship. We don’t get along, but we have managed to parent our daughter together in a workable way, and all three of us have benefited from the way you mediated, and wrote our agreement.” J.S., at first mediation session, for 2nd divorce.
“I never got a chance to thank you for what you did for us. K.N. and I remain friends, [our son] is safe and happy, and K.N. is as supportive of my relationship with [my fiancé] as I am of hers with [her boyfriend]. I never would have expected us to land in such a healthy place.”
“I would recommend Rachel Green to you. She’s a lawyer whose practice is divorce mediation. From personal experience (sadly), I’ve found her to be very experienced with a good understanding of how to address issues in divorce, including caring for the children. She’s sensitive, and good at helping both parties feel heard, validated, addressing their needs, and when needed, confronting in a safe manner.”
– J.M., therapist and client in email recommending Rachel to a patient.
“Getting divorced is a way to come back together again.”
– F.K., expressing the desire to work with the ex to craft an agreement that reflects both of their realities, during Collaborative Law Meeting.
“FYI, things have been well and smooth between us . . . and good for our child, K . . . thank you so much for your help. I don’t know what I would have done without you (and you might be thinking any lawyer would have/could have done this but that’s not true) you were/are knowledgable/professional/ flexible AND when I was in my crisis mode you were just wonderful . . . compassionate . . . yet productive in keeping me on track and ensuring you helped me protect my rights with regards to K.”
– S.M. after signing collaborative law settlement agreement
“It was really amazing. After 2 years of the lawyers going back and forth and never getting it done, we finally sat down with you. The 2 people who have to make the decisions were there — and we could just get it done. Now that our divorce papers have been filed, it’s a big relief.”
“You are such a warm human being! I did not expect a lawyer to be so nice. I was very nervous before this began, about meeting you and the divorce. But I feel that I can handle this now. You broke it all down into understandable pieces.”
– BB, at the end of the last mediation session.
“I want to thank you for your professionalism, patience and sypathy. You did a great deal, by humanizing a very clinical process, to make an emotionally difficult time easier if not less painful.”
– J.L., at the close of the mediation process.
“You did an excellent job, and very informative. I’m really impressed by your professionalism and the whole way you handled everything. You are highly recommended.”
– C.L., after mediation of Agreement was concluded.
“People get so embroiled in the fight that we could only think about how angry we were, and it became hard to think about solutions. Somehow you helped us to focus, and even solve the problems. I am so relieved to be done with the conflict, and even satisfied with how we resolved things. I thank you now, and I feel like I’ll be thanking you 5 years from now!”
– W.G., via e-mail, after all the papers were signed for his divorce.
“I know we can make this [negotiation] work. It must be a headache for you — dealing with two strong personalities like ours. I like that you stay so calm. If only we could have had a 3-way marriage — me, E–, and you — it might have worked! (joke :))”
– L.H., in e-mail sent after a heated mediation session.
“It feels like standing on a new threshold every month.,”
– A.P., talking about all the turmoil and upheaval of the first year after separating from her husband.
“Thank you for all your help and guidance through this difficult process. During our last session, you helped me to see the big picture and gave me the strength to say, ‘No, this is enough.’ I could never stand up to L during our marriage the way I did during our mediation.”
“I have spent over $70,000 in legal fees during the past 4 years litigating my divorce. I wish I had known about mediation when we first separated. Since we began mediation, the tension between my ex and I has gotten much better.”
– E.S., involved in a post-divorce parenting/visitation mediation.
“Divorce is harder than birth.”
– N.T., calling to thank me for my services after having been separated from spouse for 5 years, and on the verge of getting the final divorce judgment.
“We have made a lot of progress. I never would have dreamed we would have gotten so far so quickly. Thanks very much for your help. You have a rare combination of intelligence, kindness and tact that have been instrumental in our success so far.”
“Rachel, I just wanted to send off a note to tell you what a good job you’re doing and that, while you’d never have known it by the yelling back and forth last night, I’m amazed at how easily we’ve gotten to where we are. I’m impressed with how you’ve facilitated this for L. and me, and seeing the light at the end of the tunnel (finally) feels good.”