In mediation we work to make space for the conversations you haven't been able to have on your own. Which can help find closure and move forward without needing to keep rehashing the past. You'll have the chance to discuss anything that feels unresolved.
Couples have wanted to work out details about custody for a pet, dividing the silverware, wedding gifts and who keeps the couch. You can also discuss feelings around dividing friends. Many details arise as you un-intertwine and emotions are connected to monetary value.
Our job is to help you craft an agreement that you both feel is fair. Mediation can also help with closure by better understanding the reasons why you’re separating.
*Adrian used to be a heroin addict but had been sober for 20 years. Jill had struggled with an eating disorder since she was a teen. I guided them through a discussion about how addictive issues had blocked intimacy during their marriage. Adrian felt he'd grown and developed during the marriage, but that Jill hadn’t grown along with him. They were both crying, he with sorrow and empathy and she with sorrow and apology. They left mediation with increased understanding of why their relationship deteriorated and having shared mutual feelings of loss, which left neither feeling at fault.
*Mason and Rose talked about the issues that led them to divorce. Mason asked when Rose had first thought about ending their marriage. Rose confessed that at various times she'd been unhappy and had never told Mason. He was devastated to hear this and asked why? We delved into the blocks that had prevented Mason from seeing how Rose felt and had prevented Rose from communicating her truth. They left mediation with a better understanding of their marriage, each other and themselves.
Mediation can help you resolve open issues and end your relationship as smoothly as possible. We make space for you to share your thoughts and grief with your soon to be ex partner, whether they feel the same as you do or not. It’s a process that allows you to further understand yourself and your ex, resolve legal issues for a divorce and to get the closure you need to move into the next chapter of your life.
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