I just watched the first episode of HBO's Divorce. They got so much right. The humanity, pain and flaws in us all. The irritation we feel with our spouse of many decades, about petty things. The random little aside that triggers a fight, which of course, is not random or little but part of an on going conflict you both constantly return to.
Then there was the appeal of the affair. The glittering idea that there's somewhere you can go to get your former life back, before marriage and kids. Where you can focus just on you. Your pleasures, escapes, freedoms. Then how quickly that myth was shattered, when she told her lover she was leaving her husband. He replied with obvious consternation, “But you have kids.” Revealing he had no interest in being part of a future with her children.
The way that the husband said, “Let me give you an orgasm, that will make everything okay.” Trying to think how to fix things and going straight to sex.
Then I shuddered at the end of the show, when he said “I’m going to make sure your kids hate you.”
Kids will never thank you for making them lose their connection to their other parent. Yet, parents (married, separated or divorced) say wrong things to their kids every day, because we're flawed humans. If you're in the pain of a recent separation, with all your nerve endings glowing, you can’t always see the big picture and be your best self.
A painful show but good so far. I'll watch the second episode.
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