8 Reasons To Try Mediation:
1. Faster Path to Closure:
You may have been wronged but getting stuck in conflict and seeking revenge will only keep you thinking, reliving and tallying up those hurts. The goal of mediation is to resolve this part of your life so that you can move forward to your new, hopefully happier future, without the conflicts of the past. Let them go!
2. Neutral:
The mediator is neutral. I won’t take sides with you against your spouse, nor with your spouse against you. Instead, I will work with you to increase your understanding of each other and of your conflict and help you find ways that the future structure can work for both of you.
3. Control:
Mediation allows you to have complete control over the process:
You won’t agree to anything until you're ready to agree. Which means, the agreement isn't ready till it meets your needs.
You schedule appointments on your time-frame. You can take as much time between meetings as needed, to gather information, consider proposals, run it by those you trust.
4. Private:
Mediation is private and confidential, so that you can frankly discuss cash income, addiction, infidelity and any other sensitive issues.
5. Quicker End to Conflict:
Conflict is painful. Most people have a drive to resolve it. When you understand the sources of conflict, you have a huge release of creative energy which leads to terrific brainstorming sessions about how to solve the problem and end the conflict.
6. Shared History:
You will always have shared your years together. Even though you're splitting up, you can’t change the past. Do you want to wish each other well, and move forward into this next phase or do you want to destroy your former partner? Your children will not thank you for destroying their other parent.
7. Better Relationship In The Future:
You may want to attend future birthdays, graduations, weddings, be at the hospital for the birth of your grandchild. If you have children together, you'll always be connected to your ex. Mediation will help you keep the lines of communication open, come to a deeper understanding of why things may not have worked in your marriage and be better able to tolerate seeing your ex in the future.
Litigation is ritualized war. Afterwards, it will be hard to be civil to someone who tried to annihilate you during your divorce. Avoid doing that. Many kids whose parents are divorced have said that the biggest gift their parents can give them is the ability to be in a room together and be civil to each other.
8. Reasons People Choose Mediation (quotes from clients):
Either we solve it together or a stranger will tell us what to do.
I don’t want it to be lawyer v. lawyer
Keep the friendship that we still have
Have a fair process, for both of us
Both of us want to do what’s best for our child
Respect each other’s individuality
Get clarity about what is the right thing to do
Save money
Accomplish our goals, such as making sure we are both OK, financially
Want to be good co-parents
The law is a blunt instrument. Discussion in mediation is more tailored to what we need and care about
Hope to be able to be friends, in the future
Want to spend time together with our child
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