Services Offered

DIVORCE MEDIATION

As your mediator, I can help you move through the issues and find new ground for resolution. I won’t take sides with you against your spouse, or with your spouse against you. Instead, I will work with you to increase your understanding of each other and of your conflict. I will not make decisions for you — only you will decide what is best for your future.  Conflict is painful. Most people have a drive to resolve it. When people understand the sources of conflict, there is a huge release of creative energy which leads to terrific brainstorming sessions about how to solve the problem and end the conflict.  Once all the issues are on the table, we can begin to delve deeper into different points to gain an increased understanding. When that understanding is there, problem solving begins. As you and your spouse agree, I will begin to draft an Agreement reflecting your discussions.

 

  • resolve conflict
  • generate solutions
  • neutral mediator
  • increase your understanding of the other and their understanding of you
  • you make decisions
  • you have control of the outcome
  • brainstorm options
  • focus on children’s best interests and well-being
  • work through checklist
  • problem solving
  • legal paperwork for divorce

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COLLABORATIVE DIVORCE

In Collaborative Law you are represented by an attorney for a peaceful negotiation which maximizes the benefit to the family. You will use interest-based negotiation, which is the same technique used in mediation, but you will have an attorney by your side. Your attorney will guide you, advise you and speak for you when necessary.  In Collaborative Law cases, the attorneys agree that they won’t resort to the courts. This allows you and your spouse to keep control of certain aspects of your divorce, such as the cost and the timing. The attorneys will assist you to generate a wide range of possibilities for solutions to all of the problems facing your family, so that when you enter into an agreement you will have taken the time and weighed all your options to make sure that it is the best possible agreement for your family.

  • represented by an attorney
  • goal is a peaceful settlement
  • maximize the benefit to the family
  • use interest-based negotiation
  • 4-way meetings to discuss and resolve issues
  • attorneys won’t go to court
  • more control over cost and the timing
  • generate a wide range of possibilities for solutions
  • choose options
  • may have financial specialist
  • child specialist
  • divorce coaches

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PARENTING MEDIATION

As your mediator, I can help you move through the issues and find new ground for resolution. I won’t take sides with you against your child’s other parent, or vice versa. Instead, I will work with both of you to focus on the best interests and needs of your child, and increase your understanding of the conflict. I will not make decisions for you — only you will decide what is best for your child’s future.  Conflict is painful. Most people have a drive to resolve it. Once all the issues are on the table, we can begin to delve deeper into different points to gain an increased understanding. When that understanding is there, problem solving begins. As you and your spouse agree, I can draft an Agreement reflecting your discussions.

  • resolve conflict
  • focus on children
  • generate solutions
  • neutral mediator
  • increases your understanding of the other and their understanding of you
  • you make decisions
  • you have control of the outcome
  • brainstorm options
  • work through checklist
  • problem solving
  • legally binding parenting agreement

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PRENUPTIAL MEDIATION

We will discuss the goals you have for a prenup, and make sure the agreement we come to achieves those goals. I won’t take sides with you against your fiancé(e), or with your fiancé(e) against you. Instead, I will work with you both to increase your understanding of each other and of your hopes, dreams and plans for your life together, and create a safe space for you to talk about your values and what you each feel makes sense, and is fair, for how you will share expenses, responsibilities, debt and savings in the future. I will not make decisions for you — only you will decide what will work for the two of you. Once all the issues are on the table, we can begin to delve deeper into different points to gain an increased understanding and discuss different options. When that understanding is there, problem solving begins. As you and your fiancé(e) agree, I will begin to draft an Agreement reflecting your discussions.

  • private talks
  • chance to explore your dreams, hope, understanding
  • build trust
  • plan your future
  • if one of you has significant assets, or
  • if you do not come into the marriage in equal financial positions
  • if you have been previously divorced or
  • if you have children from a prior marriage
  • discuss debt
  • opportunity to share your hopes, visions and fears about the future, which will increase your understanding of each other
  • resolve conflict
  • generate solutions
  • neutral mediator
  • increases your understanding of the other and their understanding of you
  • you make decisions
  • you have control of the outcome
  • brainstorm options
  • legally binding prenuptial agreement


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PARENTING COORDINATION

The goals of Parenting Coordination are two-fold: first, to help you to figure out ways to work more smoothly with your ex; and second, to help to keep you out of the courts, in order to preserve your assets, and to try to lower everyone’s stress.  First, we will meet individually. I will ask you to tell me about the history of your children, your family, as well as ask you to brainstorm about what kinds of things have and have not worked in the past, and what your ideas are about how to approach your ex, going forward. I will want to understand your unique circumstances, the terms of your stipulation or court order, and the history of your family and your conflicts.  We will help you to negotiate minor changes to scheduled parenting time, whether on an on-going basis, or for one time occurrences such as vacations, special events or unforeseen circumstances that arise from time to time, and to help you to smoothly implement your parenting plan. We will not focus on issues, nor make decisions outside of this scope. We also cannot make decisions which impact religion or relocation.  As your Parenting Coordinator, I will be available as needed.

Parenting Coordinators help you:

  • figure out ways to work more smoothly with your ex
  • keep focus on the children
  • lower the amount of conflict in the home
  • keep you out of the courts, in order to preserve your assets, and to try to lower everyone’s stress
  • consult your attorney
  • meet individually
  • meet together
  • negotiate minor changes to scheduled parenting time, vacations, special events or unforeseen circumstances

Also:

  • A Parent Coordinator is appointed by the court
  • Sometimes families decide to enter into a relationship with a PC, in order to have a process in place for resolving future issues which may arise about the children
  • Parenting coordinators support you to make decisions.
  • Parenting coordinators make decisions when necessary.

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